My Dad...
My mama preached abt my future jus now... She said tat my cousin (de blind date) is a undergraduate. She is de same age as me, yet she is a finance manager now... My mama says tat if i have not quit army for 'her', (NOT MY COUSIN, SOMEONE ELSE) i will be very successful today...
Instead, I give up army, which i had slogged so hard for... From someone issue orders to someone who has to take orders from others... My mama say i stupid... say i throw face...
I told her tat after i left army, I have been successful before wor... She saw it herself, she even say its good tat i have left de army...
My mama says that, all de more i shld go back to wat i have been doing previously. But i don wan... too much work, responsibilities, so less time, even though de $ is good... my mama ask me to go back to study... i tell my mama tat she knows i cannot study de... i only know how to work my up de...
Then she scold me again, for giving up everything i had worked for previously... I tell my mama tat papa says tat life experience is more important... Career can come 2nd... My mama tell me not to listen to my dad... she say my dad bull shit de...
But i tell mama tat even though dad never had a career to talk about, (He is not in any supervisory role, not in any management role, he basically is a worker all his life...) never draw those obsence amount of salary, yet he managed clear off Uncle debts 4 times, bring up 2 'Worst case scenarios' boys, never have to let my mama work, paid for the 4 rm HDB flat in full...
He gave us a good life, never allowed us to go hungry, have dinner outside every sunday... Got a plasma TV, home surround system... got 2 tvs, 1 for mom and 1 for bro... we got cable, internet, he got my brother a computer...
He got no career to talk abt... never once he lamented that he can have a better life if he has done tat or done this... Its very hard for a normal person to do all this... Let alone my dad...
My dad is not ordinary... he is not any normal man that you see walking normally on de street...
My Dad is a Polio victim... The disease destroy the use of his right leg... His right leg is thin like a stick... Basically, just bones and skin... His muscle wasted away...
But hell, he is a strong man... He never played on his handicapped... Instead, he show alot of pple tat he is as good as any normal man... If not, better...
I know alot of his frds, colleagues as I used to play alot at his workplace when i was kid... They always tell me that my dad is not someone to be trifle with... Even though they call him 'Bai kar', a hokkien term for walking with a lame leg, its a term that they call him with respect, not ridiculation...
They told me that even though my dad walks with a limp, he doesnt require help in anything he do... They say tat his skills are superb and they cant do without him most of de time...
My dad, is a mechanic for heavy machinery...
I told mama tat she might think tat watever dad has said to me might be bullshit to her, but to me, dad would not say anything tats bullshit if it is not feasible...
but my mama, she says tat no gals would wan a man with no career... i tell mama tat if no gals wan me, then so be it... i tell mama to look at herself, my dad, my bro and me... and watever is ard her...
Then i ask her..
"Ma, when u fall in love with dad, is it bcos of his career and money? Or is it bcos of who he is?"
My mama laugh damn loud! she says tat my dad has no career and $ to speak of...
"Yea lo... but u still married him wor... and see wat dad has done... not everyone can do things like him de wor...."
my mom went quiet... she actually cried a bit... she knows wat my dad says is true la...
A man doesnt need to have a career to be successful... its wat he had done in life, his experiences in life tat counts for everything... Its the people tat he has touched in life, the pple who he has influenced, and the people who have influence him... its these pple tat bear witness to wat a man he is and how successful in life...
Once, the parents of my best frd commented on my determination in life... They asked me wat had made me so determined in life...
I told them, I grew up watching my Dad's back...
Instead, I give up army, which i had slogged so hard for... From someone issue orders to someone who has to take orders from others... My mama say i stupid... say i throw face...
I told her tat after i left army, I have been successful before wor... She saw it herself, she even say its good tat i have left de army...
My mama says that, all de more i shld go back to wat i have been doing previously. But i don wan... too much work, responsibilities, so less time, even though de $ is good... my mama ask me to go back to study... i tell my mama tat she knows i cannot study de... i only know how to work my up de...
Then she scold me again, for giving up everything i had worked for previously... I tell my mama tat papa says tat life experience is more important... Career can come 2nd... My mama tell me not to listen to my dad... she say my dad bull shit de...
But i tell mama tat even though dad never had a career to talk about, (He is not in any supervisory role, not in any management role, he basically is a worker all his life...) never draw those obsence amount of salary, yet he managed clear off Uncle debts 4 times, bring up 2 'Worst case scenarios' boys, never have to let my mama work, paid for the 4 rm HDB flat in full...
He gave us a good life, never allowed us to go hungry, have dinner outside every sunday... Got a plasma TV, home surround system... got 2 tvs, 1 for mom and 1 for bro... we got cable, internet, he got my brother a computer...
He got no career to talk abt... never once he lamented that he can have a better life if he has done tat or done this... Its very hard for a normal person to do all this... Let alone my dad...
My dad is not ordinary... he is not any normal man that you see walking normally on de street...
My Dad is a Polio victim... The disease destroy the use of his right leg... His right leg is thin like a stick... Basically, just bones and skin... His muscle wasted away...
But hell, he is a strong man... He never played on his handicapped... Instead, he show alot of pple tat he is as good as any normal man... If not, better...
I know alot of his frds, colleagues as I used to play alot at his workplace when i was kid... They always tell me that my dad is not someone to be trifle with... Even though they call him 'Bai kar', a hokkien term for walking with a lame leg, its a term that they call him with respect, not ridiculation...
They told me that even though my dad walks with a limp, he doesnt require help in anything he do... They say tat his skills are superb and they cant do without him most of de time...
My dad, is a mechanic for heavy machinery...
I told mama tat she might think tat watever dad has said to me might be bullshit to her, but to me, dad would not say anything tats bullshit if it is not feasible...
but my mama, she says tat no gals would wan a man with no career... i tell mama tat if no gals wan me, then so be it... i tell mama to look at herself, my dad, my bro and me... and watever is ard her...
Then i ask her..
"Ma, when u fall in love with dad, is it bcos of his career and money? Or is it bcos of who he is?"
My mama laugh damn loud! she says tat my dad has no career and $ to speak of...
"Yea lo... but u still married him wor... and see wat dad has done... not everyone can do things like him de wor...."
my mom went quiet... she actually cried a bit... she knows wat my dad says is true la...
A man doesnt need to have a career to be successful... its wat he had done in life, his experiences in life tat counts for everything... Its the people tat he has touched in life, the pple who he has influenced, and the people who have influence him... its these pple tat bear witness to wat a man he is and how successful in life...
Once, the parents of my best frd commented on my determination in life... They asked me wat had made me so determined in life...
I told them, I grew up watching my Dad's back...
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